Welcome to the June 2012 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Embracing Your Birth Experience
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have written about at least one part of their birth experience that they can hold up and cherish.
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**A version of this post was previously featured on the Natural Parents Network. I rewrote it in part for this month’s Carnival of Natural Parenting.**
I had a hard time envisioning the birth experience before my son was born. Despite my crunchy tendencies and aversion to medical intervention, we opted for a hospital birth at our wonderful local hospital. While I took some great prenatal yoga classes at a local birthing center, I was not ready to opt for the med-free birthing center experience. For us, the hospital birth was the right choice and it is one that I’d choose again if we had another child.
I completely credit our positive birth experience to having a wonderful hospital, one with excellent policies, including respect for a woman’s ability to birth her child.
I will be the first to admit that I had a very special hospital birth experience. My labor was induced (my water had broken before work, and I worked a full day with no contractions or even any real awareness of what was going on. It was only after I came home from work that my husband convinced me that we needed to see the doctor), but I never felt pressured. I was never told that my labor wasn’t progressing fast enough. I wasn’t pressured to stay in bed. I wasn’t given a timeline or told that my body wasn’t working properly. I was simply given the opportunity to let my body do its work.
I was encouraged to walk around, labor in the jacuzzi tub, stand, sit, or do whatever was comfortable for me. I was given free reign of a television with DVD player, CD player, and I had my laptop with wireless Internet connection to keep me distracted in early labor. No one tethered me to my bed or even tried to keep me in my room. And my room? It was amazing. I gave birth in a large, private room that we remained in for our entire stay. We had control of the lighting, the temperature and the sound.
I did get an epidural, but it was at my own request, and I never felt pressured to request it. I was advised that it was available, and then the ball was in my court. The hospital and its staff gave me all the right things to make my birth experience truly my birth experience. I was in labor through the night, and on Christmas Eve morning, even though I wasn’t progressing much my husband predicted that our son would be there in time for lunch. And he was right!
We had White Christmas playing on a loop, and as Bing Crosby was singing our son entered the world. He was immediately laid on my chest – a moment I will never forget. There was no whisking him away to be weighed out of my view. There was no separation. Even during the few moments that his vital stats were taken, they were done mere feet from me under his daddy’s watchful eye, and they were done only when I was ready to let him leave my arms for a moment.
Most encouragingly, the doctors and nurses assumed that I would be breastfeeding. There was no mention made of formula or bottles. Instead, lactation consultants were sent to my room three times during our brief hospital stay (and were available on-call at all other times). I was given literature on breastfeeding, I was told how I could reach the lactation consultants after we were sent home, and I was encouraged to participate in the wonderful breastfeeding mothers group that met at the hospital under the guidance of a lactation consultant. I was given all the right tools for the job.
I look back on Jack’s birth very fondly. Of course there were plenty of gruesome details – birth ain’t pretty – but the overall experience was more than I could have asked for. Even though a hospital birth is a pretty far cry from what most people associate with “natural parenting,” it was absolutely the right choice for us.
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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
(This list will be live and updated by afternoon June 12 with all the carnival links.)
- I Had A C-Section. So What! — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama rewrites her birth story now that she has worked through the feelings of inadequacy and disappointment of not having the “perfect” birth.
- The Perfect Birth — Kellie at Our Mindful Life reflects on how a birth can be far from what we imagined, but still perfect.
- Own Your Birth: My Hope For All Expectant Moms — Andrea at Tales of Goodness shares how she owned her birth spiritually (while navigating it physically) in order to have a joyous experience.
- Carnival of Natural Parenting: My Birth Experience — It wasn’t what Lily at Witch Mom wanted, but it was everything she needed.
- The Painless Natural Homebirth of BabyE — Shannon at GrowingSlower wants women considering natural birth to know painless births are possible.
- Reflections on Jemma’s Birth … 20 Months Later — It took a second pregnancy for That Mama Gretchen to fully embrace her first birth experience.
- Loving My Unnatural Birth Experience — Erika at Cinco de Mommy cherishes her very first birth experience, in all its unnatural glory!
- Be Careful What you Wish for in Birth — Amber at Strocel.com had two births, and it was the one that went to plan that she struggled with embracing.
- Redeeming an unexpected hospital transfer — Lauren at Hobo Mama looks back at her first, interrupted home-turned-hospital birth, and finds the beauty in what happened.
- All of it — Laura from Pug in the Kitchen had to learn to embrace the whole experience of birth even though it meant being naked . . . with an audience.
- Birthing Dreams & Realities — Momma Jorje never had a “dream birth,” but she wouldn’t change a thing about her births.
- Memories of Birth: Calm Amidst the Storm — While neither of her children’s births had been quite what she expected, Cynthia at The Hippie Housewife cherishes one moment in particular from each of her birth experiences.
- Embracing Our Birth Stories — Luschka from Diary of a First Child shares a sensitive post on her recent birth which both did and didn’t go ‘to plan’, and writes about the journey of coming to terms with the good and the bad.
- Two Beautiful Births — Sheila at A Gift Universe remembers how her mother brought out the beauty in each of her children’s births, and tries to do the same with her sons’ birth stories.
- Embracing My Supernatural ChildBirth Experiences… — Jenny at I’m a full-time mummy shares her fond memories on both her supernatural childbirth experiences
- Embracing the Hospital Birth Experience — Jenn at Monkey Butt Junction believes that sometimes a medicated, induced hospital birth is the right choice for a natural parent.
- Carnival: Embracing Your Birth Experience — Stephanie at The Other Baby Blog embraces the birth experience from a paleobiologist’s point of view and takes a look at how humans defy their anatomy.
- Reflections on My First Birth and Preparing for a Second — Abbie at Farmer’s Daughter shares the strength she didn’t realize she had until she gave birth to her son.
- becoming a mama – embracing my birth experience — Meegs at A New Day remembers the birth of her daughter Gwenivere, and the empowered feeling it left her with.
- What About Us? A Poem About Birth — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment shares a poem she wrote about healing from an unexpected and emotionally painful birth experience.
- Be a Man: One Father’s View of Birth — Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children shares her husband’s advice to other fathers and partners.
- A Birth Monologue — Kat at MomeeeZen shares a monologue she wrote during the process of healing from her birth experiences.
- Forgiveness: My Birth Journey — Leah at The Crunchy Farm Baby discusses what happens when her planned homebirth doesn’t end up the way she wanted, and explains her journey of forgiving herself for losing that “perfect” birth.
- Patching together a perfect birth — KrissyFair at Think Mama, Think learned that sometimes a perfect birth happens in pieces.
- Celebrating and Sharing the Possibilities of Perfect Birth — Terri from Child of the Nature Isle joyfully shares details of her perfect births and wishes to inspire a more positive cultural expectation about birth.
- Instinct – Embracing Your Birth Experience — Laura at Laura’s Blog reflects on instinctual moments during and after the births of her two daughters.
- I was Foolisn Then — ANonyMous at Radical Ramblings describes how foolish lack of preparation for childbirth led to a feeling of powerlessness and fear, but that in the end she had her baby in her arms, and that’s one thing she can celebrate.
- Sometimes no plan is the best plan — Tat at Mum in search contemplates that maybe she doesn’t need a birth plan for her upcoming birth.
- Disturbing the peace — Kenna at Million Tiny Things thought she would be a calm, quiet baby-haver. Ha!
- Accepting the Unexpected During Birth — Emily at S.A.H.M i AM imagined herself laboring on a birthing ball but she never imagined where she’d really be most comfortable when the time came…
- Sacred This Time, Too — Kimber at The Single Crunch learned enough to know that the way she birthed wasn’t they way she wanted to; but she also knew to enjoy it for what it was.
- The Birth Partner: A Great Natural Labor Companion — Justine at The Lone Home Ranger thinks that the secret to her pleasant natural labors was having a great support system.
- the Best Thing About My Labor Experience — Crunchy Con Mommy realizes that amidst all the things that seemed to go wrong with her labor, the love and support of her husband was the one thing she could always count on!
- Your Birth Was My Favorite — Dulce de leche describes some of the highlights from each of her four births and explains why despite the differences, they are all her favorites.
- Birth Story: Part One – Moon on a Stick! — Gentle Mama Moon tells the first part of her birth story to share some of the delight of labouring at home.
- Embracing My Birth Experience by Sharing My Birth Story — Dionna at Code Name: Mama made peace with her first birth by sharing the story with her son.
- Focusing on the Beauty of Birth — Julia at A Little Bit of All of It shares the beautiful aspects of her birth center water birth.
- A Joyful Induced Delivery — Amy Willa: Me, Mothering, and Making it All Work notes the meditations and perspective that helped her achieve an unmedicated birth despite being induced for medical reasons.
- Finding Joy in an Imperfect Childbirth Experience — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now tells what she learned from her two very different childbirth experiences.
- What’s to like about a c-section? — Jessica at Crunchy-Chewy Mama is glad she her second child at home, but she also cherishes much about the c-section she had four years earlier.
- What Story Will I Tell? — Rachael at The Variegated Life realizes that the way she tells the story of her second child’s birth matters — and could be exhilarating.
- I Quietly Put My Hopes to Rest E — Erica at ChildOrganics shares her emotional ups and downs with the highly intervened birth of her special needs daughter, Bella.
- Tale of Six Births — Jessica at Instead of Institutions appreciates that unique challenges and joys of each of her births.
- Labouring naturally: nature’s gift — Caroline at stoneageparent describes the most beautiful, spiritual aspect of the labour of her son, the first stages along a bumpy road to giving birth.
- All The Woman I Am. — Lindsay at This Woman’s Work shares a poem about letting go and surrendering during the thralls of labor.
- A twin birth story: embracing the unexpected — Megan at The Boho Mama shares her twin birth experience and how she found the silver lining when faced with preterm labor, premature birth, and a two-week NICU stay.
- Giving Birth With Eminem — Kerry at City Kids Homeschooling shares how fiery rap music contributed to an empowered homebirth with her third baby.
- Two Different Births — Cassie at There’s a Pickle in My Life shares how she learned from her first birth experience and how to trust yourself and your body.
- Embracing Our Potential: Birth as a Metaphor — Sheila at A Living Family expresses how birth has served as a metaphor to help her through other experiences in life.
- Little Sister’s Birth Story: Our VBAC Adventure — Charise at I Thought I Knew Mama describes the recent birth story of her baby girl, her pride in an epidural-free VBAC, and how her story isn’t exactly the birth experience she had planned for.
- A Journey in Birth Confidence — Shannon at The Artful Mama shares her experiences with labor during both of her sons’ births.








Your hospital needs to serve as a blueprint for every other hospital in this country – I love the respectful, peaceful environment they helped you create!
I hope our hospital is even close to that supportive (we moved since having our son). Next time I have a baby I want to attempt a VBAC, which I don’t feel comfortable trying at home, and having a supportive hospital will make a huge difference I’m sure!
I also had a great birthing experience at our local hospital. I went with a midwife who is my husband’s aunt and I was asked formula or breastfeeding and then never asked again. I loved being able to do what I wanted during labor, though i chose for the most part to be curled up on my side haha. The only thing that I wish I had thought to ask about/or would have happened/ was for the LC to visit me. The nurses were very busy when I was in there, we were in during a huge baby boom and even though I am still going strong breastfeeding 13 months in, we struggled a lot in the beginning and I just didnt make the effort for help and wished an LC would have just checked in on us. But that is completely my own doing!
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Oh, I so envy you. All hospitals should follow this model; there’s no excuse not to when the outcomes are so good when they do!
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This is such a wonderful example of women-centred birth! Regardless of how the birth unfolds, it all comes down to how the woman feels about the decisions and the actions that were taken. If she felt she was an active participant through it all–she will be empowered and cherish her birthing memory. It’s nice to read that your hospital birth was peaceful, respectful and empowering for you!
I wish every woman felt empowered enough to make an informed choice and follow what she wanted, regardless of what that choice may be. Thank you for sharing.
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Ditto. I had my two children in different hospitals in different cities and both times I was treated with nothing but the utmost respect and support. It’s nice to hear that other moms are having a good experience. Thanks for sharing!
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This is great! In another set of circumstances, I’d have chosen a hospital birth, too (mostly fear of pain, which I got over, ha ha!). I think it’s wonderful that you were able to make an informed and peaceful decision, and that the hospital and staff were so perfect for you. Thanks for sharing!
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Honestly, not to be a downer, but I was surprised after reading ‘positive birth experience’ to then read ‘induction…epidural’. This is, of course, fairly typical in the hospital, although it frequently also goes: induction> epidural> c-section. Usually not a positive experience. Yes, of course there was a timeline – why else do the induction so early (baby needs to be born because water broken more than x hours = ‘very high’ risk of infection). A ‘nice’ way of pressuring is to state simply that there is really only one option. By not mentioning other choices, like watchful waiting or natural induction methods, these choices simply disappear. I am not in any way trying to be disrespectful or suggest that you would have or should have made another choice. Just maybe food for thought that hospitals only know one way – machines and meds – and what sounds like a perfectly healthy birth could have been managed differently. What if it went: go home to wait for labor> spontaneous labor after a few hours> labor in comfort of home> arrive at hospital in transition> get in birth tub> waterbirth. Wouldn’t that really be ‘letting your body do its job’? Most births at the birth center are drug-free not because they force screaming women to ‘suck it up’, but because they know how to do pain relief and labor management in different ways. There is an awareness that Pitocin and epidurals are tough on babies and not be taken as lightly as they are in the hospital. It’s just a different perspective. Medicated and medically managed births do have risks that you seem to not be aware of, and thankfully didn’t experience.
@Semicrunchy – I don’t generally disagree with you, but just I chose not to highlight the questions, concerns, fears and worries that I had about birthing in a hospital and under the circumstances I had in my post about positive reflections on birth does not mean that I wasn’t aware of them. The theme of the post was “embracing your birth experience” – I was highlighting the positives. That does not mean I was ignorant of the issues you raised, then or now.
The bottom line is that I am not about to plague what was a good experience to me by dwelling in the “what-ifs” and the “what could have happened.” But thank you for your comments.
Wow, it sounds like a great hospital you gave birth in! I love it how you focus on the positive of your birth experience…it’s so encouraging for me as I will be birthing my baby next month!